It's a beautiful sunny Sunday here with 27 degrees Celcius/81 Fahrenheit.
Nice and chilly 🙂
I have plenty of writings to do and videos to watch, but I don't feel like working today.
So in a moment, I'm going to play WoW again.
At other times, I've preferred to learn, join a webinar, read or write instaid of playing.
I love being my own boss. I'm a tough boss, by the way, but nevertheless, I allow myself some freedom from time to time.
Like today 🙂
So let's get started.
You might notice that this daily email has changed.
Two subscribers were kind enough to tell me about some things they didn't like.
Oooooh! That reminds me! I almost forgot, as Columbo always says…
But I created two new Facebook groups just before the weekend. One will be a closed group, only for us. The other one will be open for everybody to join.
I'll tell you more about it tomorrow.
Ban Phrase: “I'll try”
How many times do you use the expression “I'll try” daily?
Yeah, I know, I'm not that good at doing videos, but I'll try to do better.
Oh, the hard-boiled egg tasted burned? Right, I'll try to stay in the kitchen the next time I cook.
And I got this fantastic course on how to sell Amazon products. So I think I'll try it out…
Do you know what's wrong with all the above sentences?
It's that you can either do a thing or not do it. You can't try to do it.
My husband uses this example for his therapy clients, when they say “I'll try”.
He says: Can you see this pencil on the table?
Well, obviously the client can.
Try to pick it up, he says.
The client grabs the pencil and pics it up.
No! My husband says. You picked it up. I didn't tell you to do that. I told you to “try” to pick it up.
And actually, in hypnosis it's a well-known method to help people get into trance. “Your eyelids feel heavy. Relax and close your eyes. You feel very relaxed. You can't open up your eyes, even if you tried. Try to open up your eyes… You can't.”
You might think that this is only words, but we program ourselves with words.
And if you tell yourself that you'll try something, you're not going to do it and succeed.
Stop yourself, everytime you were just about to say or write “I'll try”. Use another expression instead, like “I'll do my best” or “I will use this method and maybe tweak it for better results”. It will all depend on the context.
But the important take-away is:
Stop trying and start doing!
This picture if for you. Save it on your computer or on your phone.
The zombies are coming…